The Do's and Don'ts of Matchmaking

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Being a matchmaker is a tough job. But someone’s got to do it. We’ve all been there. We see two people who would be just right for each other and we can’t help but get things moving along.

Whether you’re bored of listening to your friend’s dating disasters or know you can set them up with someone way better, remember the urge to play matchmaker can either help or hinder your friendship.

Here’s what to do and what to avoid when you’re playing cupid:

The Do’s

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Firstly, ask them if you can be their wingman

You can’t set them up with someone if they aren’t willing to meet them. Ask if you can help them look for someone first. 

Listen to what they would like in a potential partner

It’s not about you. Whatever your personal opinion is on who they should date, at the end of the day, you’re trying to find someone for them, not you! If they’re looking for someone older, interested in specific activities or someone who is different to their ex, the key is to listen. Try to tick 3 out of 4 boxes so there’s room for them to be surprised. 

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The Don’ts

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Use this as an opportunity to have fun

If you’re serious about finding your friend someone they would be happy with, don’t treat this opportunity for your own amusement. They’ve trusted you with the task of introducing them to someone you think would be right for them. Affairs of the heart shouldn’t be treated as a joke. Save the memes for the group chat after the date.

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Become the third wheel 

After the introduction, it’s important to let them get on with it. It’s okay to get a debrief from your friend after the date but orchestrating how the relationship should move forward is not your call. 

 Be over critical of anyone who might not meet your “standards”

Your friend may have a checklist of who they want, you may have a checklist of who you want and trying to find someone you’ll both be happy with, will become near on impossible. 

Tell them everything about the person you’re setting them up with

Reduce expectations and let them surprise each other. It can be so tempting for both of them to do a quick social media search on each other before the date, but sometimes going in blind can give them both an idea of who they really are in the present and not in a socially constructed profile online.