7 Ways To Keep Your Dating Motivation Up

Finding love is not a sprint. It’s a marathon. Dating is a journey many of us stumble, fall and even give up on but inevitably must get back to (if you haven’t found the one). With all the mixed messages, the lousy conversations and downright ghosting out there, it’s no wonder many of us find it hard to stay on track.

Here are 8 ways to keep your dating motivation up:

1)     Get A Wingman

Who better to understand what you’re going through than another single friend? Encouragement from someone who is in the same boat as you, might just be what you both need to stay motivated in finding love. Not to mention, having a buddy by your side will increase your confidence, be less lonely and you’ll have more fun.  

2)     Try a new app – depending on your niche

The beauty of technology is that there’s a platform out there for everybody. Whether you’re trying to find a dinner partner, a fellow vegetarian or someone who shares your love of dogs, there is an app out there for you. If you’re not getting anywhere with just the one, try downloading a few others and see if your chances get better. 

3)    Schedule a day for a date

If you’re a lover of routine, why not set one day aside every two weeks to go on a real-life date? It could be someone you’ve matched with on an app, a blind date set up by your friend or someone you met through fate. Having mini goals for yourself will remind you to take actionable steps, but don’t put too much pressure on yourself to avoid burnout.

4)     Work on a part of yourself you’re not confident about 

Is it your pre-date anxiety? Do you need help with conversation starters? Working on yourself while going out on dates is a good way to test out any improvements you want to make. Getting a friend to remind you of the best bits about yourself is a great confidence booster and one that might help see yourself in the best light.

5)    Don’t pressure yourself – take breaks 

If the daily grind of trying to find the one is wearing you down, it’s time to take a pause. Tired of lost conversations, never-ending swiping and matches ghosting you? Stop and use this time as a way to mentally recharge and focus on yourself. A dating detox might just be what you need to see if things can develop organically. 

6)     Think of the big picture – it’s not a race

It can be easy to get stuck on following someone else’s path especially if those around you seem to be happy in their relationships. Finding love is not a competition (even if The Batchelor makes it seem like it is!). You need to do what’s right for you, are you actually ready for a relationship or do you think you should be in one?

7)     Spend time with friends – invest in platonic love 

Still pining over someone who hasn’t replied to your text in two weeks? Move on. Invest your time in people who are worth your time. Strengthening the relationships you already have is a good way to feel loved and appreciated.